ADHD Coaching with Dylan Alter, JD, PCC, AACC, CACP
What Is ADHD Coaching?
What do you want more of in your life? What do you want less of?
That's the starting point for everything we do together.
It might mean more follow-through, more organization, more trust in yourself. Or less chaos, less shame, fewer dishes piling up while you swear you'll get to them tomorrow.
From there, we build something that fits you and how your brain functions, so it works with ease; not something that only works if you "try harder" or "could remember to use it every day". We use practical strategies, real accommodations, and the science behind why they work, drawn from neuroscience and psychology, rather than the one-size-fits-all productivity advice that was never built for an ADHD brain in the first place.
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The word "coach" can bring up unpleasant memories of high school gym class. But it actually comes from "carriage" and by the 1830s, Oxford students were using it as slang for a tutor who'd "carry" them through an exam. Strip away the whistle and the clipboard, and that's still the job: someone who helps get you where you're trying to go.
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Coaching isn't teaching, and it isn't therapy. Teaching and therapy are great supports, and coaching is related to both. I won't push some stale system that requires more executive function to use at you and hope you can make it work for a week. I also am not in a role to ethically diagnose you, treat you, or process your past with you either. But if that's what you actually need, I will help you find someone who does those things well.
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Coaching is more than cheerleading (though, TBH, I do keep pom-poms handy), and built entirely around the brain you actually have. It's having someone in your corner to help you:
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Figure out what's actually going on
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Build real momentum
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Catch small wins early, instead of waiting for the big ones
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Make things easier — and more fun
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Build an actual partnership with how your brain works, instead of fighting it
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Here's where a lot of ADHD advice goes wrong: it tries to train you to use a planner the way a neurotypical brain would. That's a bit like teaching a left-handed person to use right-handed scissors — doable, maybe, but exhausting, and nowhere near as good as a pair made for the hand you actually have.
Behavior-change research backs this up: people do better, and enjoy it more, when the system is built around them, not the other way around.
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That's the work. We'll figure out your values, your strengths, and the specific conditions your brain needs to do its best work — and build from there. If that sounds like what you've been looking for, let's talk. No planner-shaming required.
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Why I Focus On ADHD Coaching:
"ADHD can be frustrating and discouraging." Is an understatement of epic proportions.
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We work impossibly hard to function, with the wrong instruction manual for life, like fish trying to climb trees. Infinite planners, calendars, trying each new "perfect morning routine", "new cleaning hack" and app promising an organized life yield little to no improvement, and it's exhausting. Each time we feel a glimmer of hope that this one will be "the one" and each time we blame ourselves for abandoning it. The isolation of ADHD, often having only our own experience to compare things to, means we can't always distinguish the wrong tools from the right ones.
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Triage might be easy, but making daily progress to improve our lives remains elusive.
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ADHD'ers are neurologically, and experientially adaptable, creative and resilient. Considering all of the challenges, ADHD'ers have a lot to be proud of. Despite all of our obstacles, given the right support there isn't much we can't do. The ADHD mind has omnipotential, if we can become engaged, we can do anything. We merely have to learn how our unique brain actually works.
That is where coaching begins.
Why does the text change colors?
It's an accommodation for ADHD & Dyslexia.
Does it help? Let me know!
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About me:
Dylan Marie Alter, JD, PCC, CACP, AACC, (they),
is a nonbinary ADHD coach, attorney, teacher, and consultant of Jewish and Choctaw descent. Dylan offers one on one ADHD coaching, group ADHD coaching, ADHD Ally coaching for friends, family & partners, as well as educational workshops and courses.
Dylan also facilitates and teaches restorative justice practices as a nontoxic harm-reduction strategy for community conflict and growth. In proud ADHD form, they've been an attorney, a professional chef, a college professor, and a farmer, in addition to many other vibrant life experiences. For more than two decades, they've led groups through discussions, workshops, and panels on gender and sexuality, including The Stonewall Reconciliation Project, Queer Table Talks and The Masculinity Toolbox. A common thread of their interest is in unearthing the ways in which laws and society, rather than our authentic nature, have narrowly defined many of our identities, and how queer theory & intersectionality can untangle those confusions.
A longtime student of Neuroscience, Psychology, Sociology, Queer Theory, and Anthropology (yes they're a huge nerd) they have studied ADHD in depth from a Pro-Neurodiversity perspective since 2019. Noticing the ADHD Support Community's neglectful exclusion of anyone who isn't the classic ADHD Poster Child, they decided to develop ADHD Support for everyone else, tailored for our unique alternative selves. They worked with ADHD Adults at Queer ADHD (queeradhd.com),. founded Neuroqueer.org and graduated from ADDCA, the premiere ADHD Coach Training Academy in 2022.
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